When we get something pulled away from us dramatically, like when something is really great in my life, and i really enjoy hanging out with this person. We always want to let go back to what we've lost - it's absolutely dramatic. And despite the fact that these people hurt us, we're wired to try to win them over. So we sacrifice of ourselves to get happiness from another person. When we don'twene, we lack self respect. What a lack of self respect is is chasing after happiness from another human being at the cost of ourselves. I'm not saying ven that's the up top comment. The other comet was good too.