For me this is at least definitely in the last I think 20, 22 years maybe even even earlier than that. I always try to look at what would make me happy and what would get me excited. If it really didn't kind of you know move me in some way then probably will not meet that person again for lunch or or dinner whatever. Or if you have a relationship and you know again it's kind of dragging whatever so you know there's issues there. And if that persists for a while then probably worth taking some action to try to try to tried to fix things.