You Know, I Don't Want to Date You Right Now

A lot of this is happening in the background in your unconscious, right? And so like you don't need to beat yourself up for these things. Instead you can just direct them or you can just directly address them You know, be like, "I want this type of relationship I don't know what she wants So i'm going to ask her and then we can have a discussion" Then you don't have to feel any shame or guilt even unconscious shame or guilt because now you're on the same page. What if she says that that'd be awesome right? Why haven't you had that conversation? It wasn't the right time yet.