How to Be Aware of Aggressiveness

i used to be ressive. After i had gone from being mimpy to being aggressive. And now i've hit in between somewhere. I can be assertive, i can say what i want and not back down. But i'm not going to ramp up the emotions and start yelling at someone. If we get overly involved in being emotional, such that we're evoking an emotion in the other people, they think they find ourdais like unhingedy. And then we will wind up being recluses becase no one's going going to sot a word in there. There was go hasting, anysingno, that that whole thing about the aggression taking