How Do You Feel About Your First Time Having Sex With Lesbians?

I got one for you thoughts with your first time having sex being with the someone of the same gender and struggling to quote unquote count it. I mean a lot of times sex is taught to us well pretty much exclusively as like penis and vagina intercourse so if that isn't what your experience is it feels like it doesn't count. We internalize that and then we have a lot of like that internalized homophobia it makes it really challenging to accept that sex can be fingering, oral anal kissing whatever on another tangent Like count it to who and for what there's that whole like body count narrative and does this make me less virginal or more wifey materialwhatever those you