In the inaugural episode of Any Thoughts On, the show where advisors, mentors and practitioners discuss their craft, Tee welcomes Emily Crotteau to the show. Emily moonlights as a body work specialist and is one of Tee's favorite coaches currently practicing.
Emily and Tee trade thoughts on two primary questions:
1) How can you know whether your work with a given practitioner (coach, therapist, etc.) is going well?
2) How much does it make sense to pay for something like coaching and/or therapy?
Show highlights below:
– 0:00 - 6:54 – Introduction
– 7:22 – How do you know a coaching relationship is going well? Tee introduces a three-point mental model to help determine whether your work with a given practitioner is going well:
- 1) Optimism/hope – do I feel like there's a reasonable chance that I can achieve what I want from this based on the experience(s) thus far? (This can include vibe/rapport etc.)
- 2) Emotional resonance – was the experience moving for me in a noticeable way?
- 3) Reasonable expectations and/or progression – do I have a justified outside- or inside-view (set of) reason(s) to continue with this?
– 13:50 – Calibrating your inside view with experience
– 31:00 – Gold standard for emotional resonance and durability of breakthroughs
– 42:03 – Intuition is a source of truth, not the source of truth
– 50:40 – Social interpretations of good behaviors & gender dynamics
– 59:51 – Reasonable expectations and the importance of meta-models
– 01:04:51 – How much does it make sense to pay for something like coaching and/or therapy?
– 01:08:24 – Factoring in the lifestyle and occupational constraints of the coach
– 01:16:45 – Mind games related to pay rates
– 01:22:55 – Societal underinvestment in role models
– 01:25:00 – Bounties on solving major psychological issues
