Speaker 3
Because like what Jay Bauvin was talking about, like his father was always afraid to be broke. So then all of a sudden Jay Bauvin is living his life afraid to be broke. The mother was afraid of like sickness and whatever. And then those fears get transferred and
Speaker 1
then he has this like fear of death like he was saying. I think like my mother had those type of fears of like,
Speaker 3
I guess anybody right who grows up with no bread, you always afraid to go broke, right? You like the first one. My mother's like the first generation of like, you know, getting out the struggle, the struggle, right? Even though she had her own struggle, but like, you know, she had fears of that going broke. Still today, she'd be like, you don't want to lose your job. I'll be like, mom, I'm all right. I promise. If I lose my job, I'm going
Speaker 5
to get another job. I'm going to be all right.
Speaker 3
You know what I'm saying? But like she still has that mentality. I'm like,
Speaker 2
Oh, what? That's
Speaker 5
funny. What are you saying to me? That's
Speaker 1
her fears. But I guess at some point I probably more, I probably shaken up, but I probably younger me got
Speaker 2
some of those fears from her or I think that money one is a common from that generation in general, like across the board. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah, it's definitely that because that's absolutely my family too. Yeah.
Speaker 3
But if you look at our parents who like it could be relationships, it could be like your mother or your father's fears of
Speaker 1
like abandonment or things like that, those definitely transfer to children. Sometimes like a single mom could have all types of fear about men or dating men. And then you'll see that those same behaviors show up in their children, their daughter, especially. I love that as a as a parental takeaway from this episode. I think one of my favorites is obviously the checking it with people. But yeah, sometimes I ask people like, really, like, how are you?
Speaker 9
Are you happy? And I'm like, how happy are you from one to 10? And they're like, tell me and the star, you know, saying their things, how they feel. I feel six because I don't have decent dad. And I'm like, but I have decent that. And I feel and I'm in your same number. So that's how you start like the kind of life, you know, like what makes you happy. Uh huh.