You Miss the Thing That You Miss

When we're seeking respect or love from other people, what we're really seeking in them is what we can't find in ourselves. And the only reason we demand it in the other is because we've lost touch with it in ourselves. This has a profound effect on our relationships - be they intimate and friendships. In doing so, we remove an impossible burden from our friend. Our friends can never produce peace or happiness or love for us. But if we expect them to do so, we are setting them up for failure.