The Importance of Memory in Relationships

Researchers found that when people update their knowledge and use newly acquired outcome information to make sense of experiences, they may forget or reinterpret thoughts. After a breakup, for instance, what was previously interpreted as constant attention and affection may be reinterpreted as neediness of an overbearing partner. Similarly, differences in beliefs that were previously interpreted as opportunities for perspective taking and negotiation may be re interpretable as insurmountable barriers. So we like, we live our life with a frame and that frame is always being updated hopefully, but that frame is very much constructed based on our own experiences, our past or history, our culture,.