Stephanie Coontz: Can you pivot to calm and thoughtful ang from mount vesuvius angela? She says we need to figure out situations that are the ones that bring out our best. "I'm straingdo time, believing it doesn't ierrupt very often," she says of her temper. So walk us through a situation that two years and a month ago have provoked a real outburst.
Also: how many “selves” is it OK to have?