The difference between these two examples, Pavlov's dog and the crying toddler, is that you and your brain is both the dog and the scientist. We have to feel the desire and feel the urges like the dogs and use this higher brain to be the scientist and allow that fit to be there without becoming angry or shutting it down. Our higher brain allows us to allow the urge. Like I said, I go into depth in this a lot more in some other podcast episodes.