What if consent wasn’t just a boundary conversation… but a body-based skill you can actually feel?
In this illuminating episode, Rahi Chun sits down with Dr. Betty Martin, creator of the internationally renowned Wheel of Consent, to explore how touch, boundaries, and clear agreements can rewire the nervous system for safety, trust, and authentic pleasure.
Through decades of somatic bodywork and intimacy coaching, Betty discovered something surprising: most people don’t actually know what they want — and many of us have never experienced touch that is truly for us.
Together, we unpack how learning to receive, clarifying “who touch is for,” and waking up the sensory intelligence of the hands can radically transform intimacy, communication, and sexual sovereignty.
This episode bridges:
consent • embodied boundaries • nervous system healing • somatic pleasure • and relational safety
Inside this conversation:
• The origin story of the Wheel of Consent and the Three Minute Game
• Why “Who is this touch for?” changes everything
• How conditioning disconnects us from knowing what we want
• Waking Up the Hands: retraining your nervous system to feel pleasure
• Receiving vs. performing — and why many of us confuse the two
• Common patterns men and women carry around touch and desire
• The shadow side of touch when consent is unclear
• Reclaiming voice and boundaries after trauma or violations
• How clear agreements create deeper trust and intimacy
• Why learning to receive may be the most radical act of self-love
Explore Betty’s work:
bettymartin.org • schoolofconsent.org • wheelofconsentbook.com
More resources on embodied healing and intimacy:
rahichun.com
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