Traditional Men Don't Have Any Voice in Their Relationships

Traditional men don't have any voice in their relationships ecause they're not supposed to mean anything. And so, you know, it's all about the pleasure of their partner. In family therapy, we make a distinction between what we call first order change and second order change. First order change is rearranging the furniture. Second order change is a revolution that blows up the whole structure when you move into loving strength.