Willpower in Relationships?

If you have zero passion and you're clearly, you don't even have a sexual bone in your body, then sexual means nothing because it doesn't indicate your willpower at all. So they want the passion, but they also want a mature masculine will that keeps that passion in check. I think that lesson is I took me so long to learn that man. I was like 2324 when I learned that. But once I learned it, it was awesome.