
How to Start Over Without Burning Your Life Down
Tiger Sisters
Rewrite your narrative with Esther Perel
Jean introduces Esther Perel's idea of reframing past relationship failures as learning and growth.
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If you’re feeling behind, heartbroken, stuck, or in a weird in-between, this episode is your roadmap. We break down what it actually means to start over — not as a single decision, but as a group of frameworks that touches your emotions, habits, identity, health, career, and relationships.
We walk you through 6 proven frameworks we personally use when we’re rebuilding our lives — whether that’s after a breakup, a layoff, a career pivot, or an identity shift. You don’t need January 1st to reset. You need clarity and a system.
In this episode, we cover:
✅ Why starting over is emotional and practical
✅ The “transition phase” no one talks about (and why you’re not behind)
✅ How William Bridges’ transition framework explains why change feels so hard
✅ Carol Dweck’s mindset work and how it applies to reinvention✅ Designing Your Life: how to prototype your next chapter without blowing up your life
✅ Atomic Habits as the foundation for sustainable change
✅ Why vulnerability (Brené Brown) accelerates growth, not weakness
✅ How to rewrite your personal narrative using Esther Perel’s framework
✅ Practical exercises you can do while listeningThis episode is split into two parts:Part 1 is the emotional map of starting over.
Part 2 is the toolkit you can apply immediately.Whether you’re starting over in your career, in love, after a breakup, after a layoff, or you simply want to reinvent yourself — this is the reset playbook we wish we had sooner.
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⏰ Timestamps
1:18 You’re not behind — you’re in a transition phase
3:12 Why “starting over” feels harder than it should
5:46 The emotional reality no one talks about when you reset your life
8:41 Why January 1st is overrated (and what actually creates change)
11:07 The six-framework reset system we personally use
14:02 William Bridges’ transition model (explained simply)
18:36 Why identity loss is the hardest part of change
21:58 Carol Dweck and the mindset shift required to move forward
26:14 Designing Your Life: prototyping your next chapter
32:09 Atomic Habits as the foundation for real change
37:44 Why vulnerability accelerates growth (not weakness)
42:18 Rewriting your personal narrative
47:01 How to apply these frameworks immediately
50:09 Final reflections: choosing who you become next
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Keywords: starting over, life reset, how to reinvent yourself, career reset, breakup recovery, personal reinvention, mindset frameworks, atomic habits, designing your life, emotional transitions


