In every relationship, there's a ratio. Research shows that having more positive is actually more important than reducing the negative. In relations to human beings, all itis always something. John gotman says if you've been in a long tim relation ship for years and you've never had a fight, please do that immediately. It's not about eliminating them, ecauseo you can't. But what you can do is be more diplomatic, kind compassionate around those negatives and work really hard to increase the positives. And that can be the answer to a successful, long term partnership.