The Three Tools of Good Parenting, Sham and Fear

duncan: I think lots of it gets passed down from generation to generation, right? Like, parents recognize traits in their children that they hate within themselves. And then they try to discourage those traits in some way or another. Ah, so how are you doing that with your children, duncan? Well, i use the three ofem, the two major tools of good parenting, shame and fear. Those are the, you know, best ways,. wyyman, i'm wondering if that, if you have been surprised to do that from time to time?"