There's a difference between society adhering to some kind of weird, projected, amorphous, abstract ideal of manliness. And if someone gives you specific feedback about something, maybe you should take that seriously. But like, don't try to live your life based on some abstract idea of what you think it should be. That's the failing strategy. Grow as a human being, grow towards what you want to be. How many people have i alienated? Have i alienated everyone? Now, should we have just stayed away from that one? I feel like this is a challenge with genera dynamics. It's so easy to alienate people - but it's a huge problem for