The tension, i think, of this book is that it is trying to be a pretty general interest book, and yet, i think we'll talk about the parts where he does a side bar for a specific dad experience. Is all important stuff to do, but not all of it is stuff that you really want to go totally head on into in what is supposed to be more of a general interest. He makes note of it in the forward that he's like, i can't please everyone. I can't address every situation, so i'm going to write the book that i can write. And it does seem pretty, seems pretty lived in am. But lake, i don't if