People need to get better regulated personally. People lose touch with the being behind the eyes in the other person. If both parties slow it down and feel the suffering of the other person, that could really be helpful. With that established, then you're actually in a much stronger position to change about that other person.
Before becoming the “Buddhist brain guy” Dr. Rick spent over 30 years working in private practice as a couples counselor and family therapist. Today we’re leaning on that experience, and learning what we can do to build healthier, happier, and more fulfilling relationships.
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Key Topics:
0:00: Introduction and Rick’s upcoming book
3:20: The importance of deliberate action in making a relationship
5:50: 6 practical steps from Rick’s new book
10:05: The relationship we have with ourselves
13:10: When others don’t want the same thing
18:50: Rick’s recurring observations in relationship counseling
25:00: Balancing intimacy and autonomy, and asserting what you want
30:50: Staying on topic and establishing thorough agreements
36:25: Sticking to our needs without alienating others
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