Introduction

Suppose a lot of that stuff about bravery debates is right.

That lots of the advice people give is useful for some people, but that the opposite advice is useful for other people.

For example, "You need to stop being so hard on yourself, remember you are your own worst critic" versus "Stop making excuses for yourself, you will never be able to change until you admit you've hit bottom."

Or "You need to remember that the government can't solve all problems and that some regulations are counterproductive" versus "You need to remember that the free market can't solve all problems and that some regulations are necessary."

Or "You need to pay more attention to your diet or you'll end up very unhealthy" versus "You need to pay less attention to your weight or you'll end up in a spiral of shame and self-loathing and at risk of eating disorders."

Or "Follow your dreams, you don't want to be working forever at a job you hate", versus "Your dream of becoming a professional cosplayer may not be the best way to ensure a secure future for your family, go into petroleum engineering instead."