Optimal Grip - What if You Don't?

When you're swimming, going on a day, reading rlighte, looking at an object, you're trying to get an optima grip. You have practised this skill so that youare extremely proficient. Herbert dryfus is one of his favorite examples. How close should you stand to somebody in order to get an optimal grip on the interaction? There is no algorithm. It's ie, always stand four inches. That's ridiculous. Always stand one foot. But you have that skill. Most of you are not socially awkward. What if you didn't? When what have you got into a flow state that wisn't the flow state of doing a martial art? Isn