The Missing Piece in the Masculine Relationship?

Oka: What does it mean to be strong and solid to hurl against? Does that mean we have to forego our own boundaries, like we were talking about before? I think the number one thing that prevents a man from feeling like that solid container, or that place that a woman can lean into and feel safe, is his defensiveness. And so oftentimes when women are communicating in the way they do, and men don't see them as women, they feel like she's trying to break me down. She's trying to destroy my sense of myself as a good man. When this happens over time, she absolutely loses trust that you can be that sella container for