The Hall Mark of Healthy Adult Relationships

In a healthy couple, when one person is upset or overwhelmed or lonely, the other partner is available. But their emotions are not pulled out of wack by their partners. Theyan, the person who's not activated can remain emotionally calm, or at least not activated, because their partner is activated. And that's the hall mark of interdependency. When we need someone, they're available. When they need someone ere available, its a a give and take. It's balanced. The buddha has a wonderful series of teachings on the mutuality of relationships. He says it doesn't have to be a relationship partner. It can just be a friend or an ally therapist