The Green Boundary

The first step is really getting clear on what you want your holidays to look like. Then I want you to communicate this clearly to other people as a team. If they push back, you're going to enact a yellow boundary where you acknowledge their disappointment without rescinding your boundary. And then the red boundary is you just hold it together as a family unit. You spend Christmas morning at your house. You show up at grandma and grandpa's at 2 p.m. and you leave by 6 to do the rest of your plans.