Listening Something to Anger - Can You Give an Example?

I want to give people listening something to anger too. You haven't given us a specific example. People are trying to understand but I can feel that they don't have a thing to hold on to yet so can you give them an example. So one example is I've been I was judging John for like John's your partner. Yeah John's my partner saying something about someone on social media and his thing is very much about rhetoric and arguments. This person was making an argument that was not logical and he kind of sounds very masculine and I'm totally fine. My my like people pleaser the core wound of that avoidant thing it gets really triggered by directness, rudeness or aggressive