Control vs Power

In the book, you talk about how understanding the difference between these two can help us understand when our perfectionism is healthy and when it might be getting away from us. What do we gain when we seek control? So I think one of the reasons why people feel locked out of joy is because they haven't forgiven themselves for past versions of themselves that did or did not do something. And if you don't trust yourself, you can't give yourself license to have power. You micromanage yourself. It's just like a boss who doesn't trust their employee. They're going to be checking in every second on what they do  and meet that person with suspicion instead of confidence.