Is Your Boundaries a Red Flag?

In an ideal relationship, you're not bumping up against your boundaries. If there is no collaboration, my boundaries always have to be the first thing out the gate. That may be something to look at and that could be a red flag. You can't just sort of zen your way past being bothered by that - it's too much. And so i would encourage you to maybe move away from thinking about boundaries as the way to express those preferences or if they are boundaries,. Then this is a much more serious thing to be thinking about. And it's not about veto. It's about, maybe you shouldn't be in this relationship, even if that really sucks.