How to Survive an Emotionally and Physically Abusive Father

Sometimes when we are abused as children, we will seek out certain types of people in our lives because we feel comfortable around them. So if you had any sense of comfort when you met your husband, it's quite possible, maybe probable that he had the type of qualities that you remember in your father. You might see things that really aren't there because you want to feel it inside of you, so you kind of put it there. I'm just putting that out there as a thought. And could you be punishing your husband for the sins of your father? I don't know. That would be something that you'd want to talk to somebody about or reflect on on your own.