i think that the usefulness of your time is much better spent finding the right person for you, rather than trying to fit somebody else into a situation that doesn't quite work for them. Michel's question was, how do you deal with people who are condescending and self important? i would say, just don't hang with those people to any extent possible. Some people make mistakes, sure, and are willing to fix them. But other people like being condescended and self important. That's kind of their stick.
Welcome to the September 2021 Ask Me Anything episode of Mindscape! These monthly excursions are funded by Patreon supporters (who are also the ones asking the questions). I take the large number of questions asked by Patreons, whittle them down to a more manageable size — based primarily on whether I have anything interesting to say about them, not whether the questions themselves are good — and sometimes group them together if they are about a similar topic. Enjoy!
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