Repair: restoring bonds after conflict

Why is dating broken? 

Why are young men flooding back to church? 

In this conversation, I sit down with Patrick Coffin: Catholic broadcaster, close-up magician, and host of The Patrick Coffin Show. We go deep on the real reasons relationships are falling apart: and it goes back further than you think.

We cover: 
→ Why dating is a failed concept (and what humans actually need) 
→ The 3 "divorces" that broke Western civilization 
→ How your image of God shapes your attachment style 
→ Why empaths and narcissists can't stop finding each other 
→ The difference between emotional permanence and emotional impermanence 
→ What the Traditional Latin Mass has to do with secure attachment 
→ Why "spiritual but not religious" is code for "I don't want to be challenged" 
→ The biochemistry of feeling loved (oxytocin, vasopressin, and cortisol) 
→ How to repair after conflict: the skill most families lost 120 years ago
Plus: Patrick performs a live magic trick that lands.

This is the intersection of faith, neuroscience, and attachment theory: the stuff that actually changes how you bond.

🔗 RESOURCES MENTIONED:
Patrick Coffin's Podcast: https://patrickcoffin.media 
True North Community: https://patrickcoffin.media

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I'm Adam Lane Smith, The Attachment Specialist. I've spent 16 years helping people understand how their brain learned to bond: and how to change it. I work with anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment styles to build secure relationships that actually last.
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