i typed in rupert spira parents. And there's a good, great video that he has on parents. Your parents are only the way they are because of what their parents did or didn't do for them. So this very unsatisfying to the ego thing, where you go like there actually is no personal responsibility. If you don't love your parents in the way you would like to, that you wish you could begs, let go of that desire. Soften and just surrender. That's what the sadness is and watch what happens.