Hesed: Speed dating seems like a really convenient way to test a lot of people. You can ask them before the speed dating session, what does your ideal partner look like? And then you could see at the end, who did they actually say they wanted to go on another date with? How did they line up? Did people's preferences dictate who they ended up with at the end of the night? No, not at all. He thinks it's more like this complicated calculation. We make trade offs. Like, you might want someone who's really smart, like superintelligent, but you wouldn't want to be with them if they were all so really arrogant. Hes