The idea that your kid isn't already aware of all of your vulnerabilities and flaws is just a preposterously conceited notion. And I think there's like a fine line to walk here, which is to say, well, if you did the thing, then there is going to be accountability for it. But also I want you to have been self-reflective enough to realize that you did that because you were tired or you were hungry or you were frustrated or anxious so that you become kind of more self-regulating in the future.