Beyond, Doer, and Done Too by Jessica Benjamin

In the wake of Dolly, all of these thoughts were sort of swirling in my mind. And it was as I was thinking about all this stuff that a very good friend of mine gave me a book. Jessica Benjamin's idea is that when two people come together they're both open and willing to face each other. In that mutual engagement, the relationship between them is actually a separate entity. So it's almost as if magically these two people create a separate third space.