Self flagellation is another version of the attempt to take the problem into your own hands. It may be that the anger itself is what has gone wrongut often there's something else also. And i do think hat there's a very strong tendency to respond by saying, i'll solve this problem all by myself,. I'll either i'll get revenge, or i'll take a step back and lose my anger, ori'll il loglae. But in general, my feeling is just, a lot of the time, the peep, the participants, are not sufficient, unto themselves, to solve the problem. They need each other's help.