i think there's an inherent ampathy that makes ha marriage work, in understanding that therr little but they can be different, and it's ok. I want to make sure we don't miss said, when someone responds to something that sai as almost forbade him, the question is bound up with their commitment to ampathize with people who are less fortunate than themselves. For many people, that's a fundamental part of their identity. They can't suspend their commitment or let it go. And that's the sort of their anger. So i was rereading this bit of the screw tape letters. Do you know this text? Esius lewis or ohindeed.