Why New Habits Are Hard

In this episode, Joe invites previous guest, Dena Justice back on the show to continue the conversation on Neuro Linguistic Programming and non-ordinary states of consciousness.

3 Key Points:

1. 93% of what we do on a day to day basis, is unconscious. If we can figure out how to work with that 93%, then we can really do some important things.
2. A lot of times we aren't happy with our behavior, first we have to distinguish between cause and effect. With effect, you blame other people, but when you're a cause in your life, you're taking responsibility for what's happening.
3. Creating new habits is hard at the conscious level, because it requires conscious thought. NLP focuses on the unconscious.

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Show Notes Last Episode

• 93% of what we do on a day to day basis, is unconscious
  • If we can figure out how to work with that 93%, then we can really do some important things
  • Communicating with the unconscious mind is kind of how we communicate with ourselves
• The previous episode was called Neuro Linguistic Programming and Non-ordinary states of consciousness
• NLP is all about our nervous system and what is coming in with our 5 senses, then the linguistic part is all about how we communicate what is happening in the body
• NLP basically creates all of our behavior
  • The more we are able to understand how our unconscious mind works, the better we are able to get the outcomes we actually want

Outcomes

• A lot of times we aren't happy with our behavior
• First we have to distinguish between cause and effect
  • When you're at effect, you blame other people, but when you're a cause in your life, you're taking responsibility for what's happening
• "When we can help people be more at cause, they get those desired outcomes, and people start to get to where they want to go in life" - Dena

Perception is Projection

• Whatever you're believing that which is outside of yourself, it's actually a reflection of you
• Dena said that she won't go to fitness classes simply because of the language they use
  • Altering your state through movement makes a person very vulnerable and the language can be very suggestive
• What are we subjecting ourselves to everyday? When we sit down to watch TV or movies, we are in a trance-like state
• Dena suggests being very careful to be aware of what we let in
• Getting rid of barriers and obstacles to get where you want in life is the goal for NLP

Prepping the Unconscious Mind

• Going to the gym is a habit so many people want to have and don't
• Creating new habits is hard at the conscious level, because it requires conscious thought
  • When we try to make decisions at the conscious level, it gets really difficult
• "All learnings and behaviors, happen at the unconscious level" - Dena
• "How many times did you have to tie your shoes consciously, before you tied your shoes, unconsciously?" - Dena
• Most people don't have good language running in the background, and that is a big reason why people are stuck in poor behaviors

Prime Directives of the Unconscious Mind

• We create gestalts of emotions and experiences
  • A gestalt looks like a pearl necklace, and they are all related to each other
  • All of our experiences of our emotions (ex. anger) all get hooked together like a necklace
  • It's a way that our mind organizes the information
• When we learn to re-frame intentionally, we can take it as a tool into non-ordinary states of consciousness

Re-framing

• In psychedelic experiences, we are re-framing the conscious mind, we shake loose of our gestalts
  • "We need to learn new tools in order to directly communicate with the unconscious mind" - Dena
• When we can get to the 'aha' moment, we can create change more quickly
• Limiting beliefs and negative emotions get in the way
  • Getting rid of limiting beliefs causes massive aligned action which leads to massive life change

Tools

• Our unconscious mind loves following instructions
  • We tell the mind so many don'ts, 'don't cross the street, don't walk on the grass, etc
  • We need to tell the mind exactly what to do
  • People are really clear about what they don't want, but they aren't always clear on what they do want
• 7% of what we are saying are just words, the other 93% is is how we say it, our emotions, our infections, are body positions, etc
• Joe mentions somatic techniques, but that only goes so far, NLP takes it home
• We learn language, but we don't learn to be effective communicators

Workshop

• Joe, Kyle and Dena are talking about doing a 5-day breathwork and NLP workshop in Sonoma, CA
  • Breathwork is such an amazing tool for non-ordinary state of consciousness
• Until more news is released about the retreat/workshop, Dena invites listeners to take her course over at her website, Ecstatic Collective
• Sign up at psychedelicstoday.com/NLP to be notified of the future workshop

Links

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About Dena Justice

As a master manifester, Dena has created a beautiful life for herself. She been financially responsible since age 15 including putting herself through college, two masters degrees and purchasing her own home in the San Francisco Bay Area. She has made over $1M in her life through a fulfilling career as a facilitator, educator, trainer, mentor and coach working with thousands of people across the country. She loved her career, yet hit a point where she felt empty. Near the top of her career ladder, she was a classic case of a high performer and leader hitting burnout. She chose a powerful pivot out of her J-O-B and into her own business. Now, she helps other high performers who have hit burnout and are scared to admit they've hit a plateau or a wall. She helps them get the eff out of their own way and move to the next level to increase their impact so they feel fulfilled and inspired again, as well as helping them create more wealth and the relationships they want in their lives. She helps people experience new levels of success, increase/improve focus and performance, abolish FOMO, evolve communication skills, develop transformational leadership skills, create amazing relationships, increase financial abundance and live life on their own terms.

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