The Grudge Fold Path

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You can have a bunch of grudges, but selectively. So keep a budget or grudge it. Go through the steps of grading your grudges. There's a whole set of questions you ask yourself for this,. Like how serious was the overall situation? And would my feelings around the grudge change if I got a heartfelt apology? It may even reaffirm your own value system of how you need to be treated and how you treat others. Finally, when you've got a grudge that no longer gives you such a live charge of negative feelings, you can polish it up and put it in yourgrudge cabinet.

Maybe you want to dismiss your grudges, like they’re petty incidents. Or maybe you hold them tightly, and wear them like badges of honor. Either way, we have them. And we’re taking the view that there’s more going on with our grudges than we think.

Today, we talk with Sophie Hannah, author of "How to Hold a Grudge," and meditation teacher Matthew Hepburn, for perspective on what triggers our grudges in the first place – and how holding them can actually be good for us. We also listen to some of your grudge stories.

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