What Does It Mean to Be Gay?

i had honestly never heard the word homosexual until i went to college, spoken or even written. I remember the only time i saw it in high school was on the back of a a toilet wall grafiti that said, one of the things that my mother made me a homosexual. And underneath someone wrote, if i gave her the wool which she made me one too. You were either utterly unspoken or it was some kind of joke. So you had this in the back of your head. It's hard to explain to people to day what those rites were. That we were unable to visit one another in hospital, that's how bad it was,. Even when our spouses were dying.