How to Listen to Your Partner's Needs Without Losing Your Own Needs

When i do sympathy training for women, many of the women that i work with find it very hard to hear their partners needs without losing their own needs. It's as though other people's needs are more important to them. Non violent communications suggest that we really sure that everything we're doing is done willingly and it's done out of an energy that comes when we see that we are enriching life.