Why Do Children Become Hyper Vigilant?

When you are not allowed to attach to a primary caregiver healthy way, then you learn to believe on an innate level that the world is not safe. You struggle with abandonment issues. You have been abandoned. In the abandonment, you're unable to figure out what makes you feel worthy. So why do children become hyper vigilant? Children become hyper vigilant in an attempt to find some sense of power, control and a sense of safety. It's all tied to survival. If i can figure out what's going to set my mother off, then i might be able to control how she responds to me.