Are You Making Yourself Small?

You describe your relationship with gray as being sustenance, but it doesn't seem very sustainable. He wasn't there for you during these hard traumas and doesn't want to talk about it. There's a whole lot of stuff here that isn't working super well. But like Sierra said, we're not choosing between two things here. What we're choosing is to say, how is this relationship functioning for me? And what do I need to do to make sure that that I'm getting what I need out of my life?"