What happens when you've spent a lifetime being silent—and suddenly, you can't do it anymore?

In this powerful conversation, Connection Codes coach Laurel Simpson shares the moment that changed everything: a walk with her husband John where she realized she had to rebel against the silence that was suffocating her marriage and her mental health.

After years of caretaking her mom through Alzheimer's, living in chronic dysregulation, and navigating her husband's anger while drowning in her own fear, Laurel reached a breaking point. The phrase that haunted her since childhood—"shut up, shut down, shut off"—was no longer sustainable.

In this episode, you'll discover:

The moment Laurel decided to rebel against emotional silence and what gave her the courage to finally speak up
Why anger was shutting her down and how she learned to navigate it in her marriage
The phrase that changed everything: "I have fear in sharing this, but..." and how it transformed her relationship with John
How to do "one brave thing every day" and why it's more powerful than you think
Why Connection Codes training isn't just for coaches—it's for anyone who wants to become a better human
The difference between eliminating fear and processing through fear to take brave action
How to recognize when you're living in chronic dysregulation and what to do about it
Why we're not designed to suffer in silence—and how to get back to your authentic voice

For couples navigating crisis, individuals feeling voiceless in their relationships, or anyone who's been told to "shut up" their entire life—this episode is for you.

Laurel demonstrates the Core Emotion Wheel and shares her current experience with grief, transition, and the ongoing work of staying connected to herself and others.

Keywords: emotional health, mental health podcast, marriage communication, breaking emotional silence, chronic dysregulation, processing emotions, finding your voice, relationship healing, emotional safety, nervous system regulation, marriage after trauma, caregiver burnout, emotional processing, healthy relationships, leadership through vulnerability

Resources mentioned:

Connection Codes Foundations Course
School of Connection (8-week program starting September 30th)
Connection Codes Coaching Cohort

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Book a Connection Codes coach: https://connectioncodes.co/coaches
Find Laurel Simpson on the Connection Codes website under "All Coaches" (https://connectioncodes.co/all-coaches)

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