When some one expresses anger to me, my first emotional reaction is, they don't like me. But in fact, ah, it often means something very different. And when i can remem ber that it means something different, i don't have to react to their anger with either my own anger back or my own loss of self. I just go, that's interesting. I've touched a nerve. That's what it is to touch a nerve. Ah, and that's, um, you know, i think you shouldn't intentionally do it, touch nerve, touch the nerve. You can identify it. There are positive and negative ways to deal with that situation. But we often do