Discovering addiction to certainty

Escaping the Certainty Trap: Revisiting “The Gift of Maybe”
In this episode, I explore how the desire for comfort and security can slowly become a trap. Inspired by The Gift of Maybe by Allison Carmen, this story is both personal and universal—how striving for a safe life can quietly limit our growth, and how a single word—“maybe”—can help us shift our mindset, challenge our fear, and open up to new possibilities.
I reflect on my own life, particularly how after years of chaos in my childhood, I worked hard to create a life of comfort: a stable job, predictable routines, a peaceful home. But when faced with a seemingly perfect job opportunity, I froze. The change triggered panic, not because it was wrong, but because it threatened my carefully controlled world.
That’s when The Gift of Maybe entered my life. What started as a book I planned to review for the podcast unexpectedly turned into a mirror I wasn’t prepared to look into. The author’s story mirrored mine—how unexpected change can become transformative, even when it first feels like loss.

Comfort as a Hidden Trap:
Comfort can build slowly, through routines and security, until it becomes a prison of predictability. I explore how this happened in my own life and how I didn’t notice it creeping in until change knocked on the door.
Addiction to Certainty:
Certainty feels safe, but it’s an illusion. I discuss how we can become overly attached to control, resisting anything that disrupts our expectations—even when it’s a good thing.
The Power of “Maybe”:
The word “maybe” isn’t indecision—it’s possibility. Inspired by Allison Carmen’s work, I talk about how shifting our mindset can help us embrace change without fear.
Takeaways from the Episode:
This episode is a reminder that certainty isn’t always the prize we think it is. When we cling too tightly to stability, we shrink our world. “Maybe” gives us the space to grow again. It’s okay to feel fear, but don’t let it make your life smaller. You can take small, brave steps toward a more expansive life.
If your life feels safe but stagnant, maybe it’s time to consider what possibilities you’ve been avoiding—and maybe, just maybe, it’s time to say yes to something new.
https://startwithsmallsteps.com/breaking-the-certainty-trap-lessons-from-the-gift-of-maybe/

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