The Biggest Barrier to Post Dramatic Growth

We are human, and we're going to face difficult events in this human life. How do we cultivate the tools to help us deal with adversity? If you have had adversity in your childhood, is that as a child, our access to resources can be very limited. We get stuck in that island of despair and forget like don't even know how to ask for help. Do asks for help. Don't see competence, you know, don't have that body experience of that relief that can come inter personally on that island.