Are You Frustrated Right Now?

"If we don't empathically connect with what's going on in them when they say that, if we take that that there is something wrong with us for having our needs," she says. "We've given them the power to make us feel that our needs are something negative, that they are caustic." We need to hear the feelings and needs behind their no,. or behind the criticism judgment diagnosis that they make of for having the needs.