I Love You, but I'm Not in Love With You

If these myths live inside of us unchallenged, we're at risk of experiencing a ton of cognitive dissonance the moment that we are attracted to somebody else. And i think that is sometimes what people are saying when they say, i love them, but i'm not in love with them. In relationships where one or both partners does tend to experience more of a responsive desire, it means that desire needs to be cultivated. couples need to develop and commit to erotic practices so that the partner or partners with more responsive desire has opportunities to have their desire sparked.