Kink is literally and I have a whole chapter on this too because it's so misunderstood what kink is people assume it's like cannibalism or you need like a 50 shades of gray red room of pain but literally it's anything that is blowjobs are seen as kinky oral sex is seen as kinks. There's a little kink quiz in here too to kind of figure out how kinky they are  what they're into can you find how great to be able to also get to the point when this is my mission can we like normalize the conversations about sex already please please save us a lot of pain love it well you are definitely helping to uh to push that